Be Bad, Better (Paperback)

How Not Trying So Hard Will Set You Free

Rebecca Seal

A self-help guide to re-evaluating our ideas of success, embracing being 'good enough' and not feeling bad about it.

'An anthem! A permission slip! Freedom to be us in full glory and messiness ... a fun and freeing read' Melissa Hemsley

'What a powerful, freeing, thought-provoking read this is. I let out a breath I hadn't even realised I was holding' Anna Mathur

You do not have to be good.

At some point, you'll have absorbed the message that being good is to be calm, efficient and tidy. Wise and well-meaning people offer to help you become worthy, to be positive and productive and to always say 'yes, I can!' But what if this is wrong? And what if some of the things we've been told are bad, are just as useful as the good?

Blending science, expert interviews and practical advice, here is the flipside of everything we've been told we should be - and how the bad parts are really not so bad after all. You'll discover:

- Why it's helpful to feel angry
- How it's counterproductive to always be productive
- How laziness can improve your relationships
- Why your body is, and has always been, absolutely fine
- How clutter inspires creativity and enhances your sense of place
- Why mindlessness is good for your mental health

Be Bad, Better is not an invitation to start misbehaving but it is about taking what you think are your worst bits and asking what they could do to serve you. Examining how society polices our behaviour and artificially constructs the good and bad, here is a thoughtful and eminently helpful guide to reassessing your ideas of success, embracing every part of yourself and being bad, better.

Publication date: 28/12/2023

£14.99

ISBN: 9781800816879

Imprint: Souvenir Press

Subject: Arts, Language & Literature, Health & Wellbeing, Philosophy & Ideas, Self Help & Advice

Be Bad, Better (Ebook)

How Not Trying So Hard Will Set You Free

Rebecca Seal

A fascinating guide to re-evaluating our ideas of 'good' and 'bad' and embracing every part of ourselves

'An anthem! A permission slip!' Melissa Hemsley

'A powerful, freeing, thought-provoking read' Anna Mathur

'For most of my life, I've lived as though there's a Platonic ideal of me, and if I just try hard enough, I can be it.
That, my friends, is nuts.'

Most of us spend our lives trying to be a better version of ourselves - happier, healthier, fitter, calmer, selfless . . . But what if all the things that we're supposed to be striving for aren't all they're cracked up to be? What if we leaned into our 'lesser' traits instead?

Be Bad, Better calls into question our constructed ideas of 'good' and 'bad' and relentless pursuit of self-improvement. From anger to messiness, laziness to aging, it deconstructs our supposed flaws and instead offers a radical framework for self-acceptance.

Publication date: 28/12/2023

£9.99

ISBN: 9781800816893

ISBN 10 / ASIN: B0C5FG7HTC

Imprint: Souvenir Press

Subject: Arts, Language & Literature, Health & Wellbeing, Philosophy & Ideas, Self Help & Advice

Be Bad, Better (Paperback)

How Not Trying So Hard Will Set You Free

Rebecca Seal

What a powerful, freeing, thought-provoking read this is. I let out a breath I hadn't even realised I was holding. In finding fresh acceptance of your badness, you can welcome a more authentic and fulfilling life. This is an invitation to stop labelling our behaviours and emotions as 'good' or 'bad', so that we might find compassion and transformative acceptance of all that lies in between

A fascinating guide to re-evaluating our ideas of 'good' and 'bad' and embracing every part of ourselves

Publication date: 09/01/2025

£10.99

ISBN: 9781800816886

Imprint: Souvenir Press

Subject: Arts, Language & Literature, Health & Wellbeing, Philosophy & Ideas, Self Help & Advice

Reviews for Be Bad, Better

'What a powerful, freeing, thought-provoking read this is. I let out a breath I hadn't even realised I was holding. In finding fresh acceptance of your badness, you can welcome a more authentic and fulfilling life. This is an invitation to stop labelling our behaviours and emotions as 'good' or 'bad', so that we might find compassion and transformative acceptance of all that lies in between'

Anna Mathur, author of Raising a Happier Mother 

'Calmly and systematically unpicking the notion of 'goodness' (especially in girls and women), Seal explores how being 'angry, sad, messy, tired, soft and round' is not only fine but actually can boost all aspects of our lives from our imaginations to our relationships'

 Stylist

'Invites us to ditch the new year, new you resolutions, and consider how they can have a positive effect on our lives . . . This is an antidote for anyone feeling burnt out from trying to always 'do better''

 Psychologies

'Wow. What a relief. This is the ultimate guide to letting yourself off the hook in the most productive and sensible way. A self-help guide for people who are resistant to self-help. Packed with reassuring advice and fascinating research, Be Bad, Better carefully debunks powerful cultural myths about productivity and 'the perfect life'. I loved it'

Viv Groskop, author of Happy High Status 

'As a recovering perfectionist and former try hard 'teachers pet good girl', Rebecca's book on being bad, better has been music to my ears. An anthem! A permission slip! Freedom to be us in full glory and messiness. It's amazing how exhausting and time consuming striving to be good is. This handbook of reassuring stories from around the globe on being truly you, all sides of you, is a fun and freeing read'

Melissa Hemsley, author of Eat Happy 

'Praise for Solo: How to Work Alone (and Not Lose Your Mind):'

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'Kind, realistic and genuinely helpful'

 Observer

'Sound advice . . . invaluable in years to come'

 Herald Scotland

'Filled to the brim with advice . . . a brilliant book'

Emma Gannon 

'Bravo on the publication of this witty, wise guide to solo working'

Alice Lascelles 

'Improve your home working routine'

 Guardian

Rebecca Seal

Rebecca Seal

Rebecca Seal is a journalist, TV presenter and author based in London. She has written for broadsheet newspapers and magazines all over the world, and appears regularly on television and radio. She has been freelance for over twelve years, is the host of The Solo Collective podcast and the author of the bestselling book Solo: How to Work Alone (and Not Lose Your Mind).