She Comes First (Paperback)

The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

Ian Kerner

An indispensable guide for straight men by an expert sex therapist

'There are some fantastic books out there that men should read ... It really worked' Coleen Nolan, ITV's Loose Women

Did you know that the clitoris has 8000 nerve endings, twice as many as the penis? Here is everything you've wondered about the female orgasm and how to make it happen.

A witty, well-researched and revealing guide to giving your lover an orgasm every time. More than just foreplay, Ian Kerner argues that oral sex is the key to a great sex life for both partners. Short sections cover philosophy, technique, step-by-step instructions and detailed anatomical information, essential to both beginners and experienced lovers.

'It's time to close the sex gap and create a level playing field in the exchange of pleasure, and cunnilingus is far more than just a means for achieving this noble end; it's the cornerstone of a new sexual paradigm, one that exuberantly extols a shared experience of pleasure, intimacy, respect and contentment. It's also one of the greatest gifts of love a man can bestow upon a woman.' Ian Kerner

Publication date: 10/10/2019


ISBN: 9781788164030

Imprint: Souvenir Press

Subject: Health & Wellbeing

Reviews for She Comes First

'There are some fantastic books out there that men should read ... It really worked'

Coleen Nolan ITV Loose Women

'Before you give up on oral sex ... get yourself a copy of Ian Kerner's manifesto She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman and make sure your boyfriend reads it too ... It is a veritable paean to the art of good oral sex, packed with instructive sentences... I cannot recommend it highly enough'

Suzi Godson The Times

'Perhaps it's time we paid more than lip service to the idea of true sexual liberation, and perhaps She Comes First is just the sort of talking point we need to get us started'

Susanna Forrest Guardian

'Every man's must-read. Tell your guy to put down the remote and pick up She Comes First'


'A practical, friendly, well-written guide for men who want to give better orgasms and the women who will be lining up to love them'

Cindy Chupack, Executive Producer Sex and the City

'Some women feel uncomfortable about oral sex. Others are Ian Kerner fans'

 The Times

'An entire book written strictly for the pleasure of women by a man. Hallelujah!'


'If your man understands what's under the hood of a car better than the hood of a clitoris, this will enlighten him.'

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Ian Kerner

Ian Kerner

Ian Kerner is a licensed psychotherapist and nationally recognized sexuality counselor who specializes in sex therapy, couples therapy and working with individuals on a range of relational issues. He holds a doctorate in Clinical Sexology from the American Academy of Clinical Sexologists and contributes regularly to CNN Health.